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The Dangers of Dating Single Moms

She smart, pretty, and she’s looking at you—watch out though, that girl might be dangerous! As of 2016, there are approximately 10 million single moms in the United States—with 57% of millennial moms being single. As a millennial man, you must get straight to the point, and find out if she’s a package deal. If you have not yet dated a divorced or single woman, then you may not be prepared for the challenges you are sure to face. Even if you don’t mind that she’s a mom, you must be informed before making a commitment. It’s not common for Alpha males to step into another man’s shoes, as you prefer to fill your own shoes. Even if her baby daddy is still in the picture, dating a woman who has full custody—means you will take on the role as the primary male role model. This is easier said than done, and quite frankly not your responsibility.

You’ve Got Enough On Your Plate

As a recent college graduate, you still have your whole life ahead of you. Why complicate things more, by taking on the responsibility of someone else’s children? This goes beyond your commitment in time, but also the financial responsibility of raising kids. Even if there’s a few hundred in child support coming in each month, it is rarely enough to cover more than their food. You’ve got enough student debt to manage (and maybe your own baby mama) without the added worry of some deadbeat kids.

Your Financial Commitment Might Be Lifelong

The kids aren’t yours, so if your relationship doesn’t work out, you’ll move on with your life. Right? Think again! What most men don’t realize, is that if you make a commitment to father and financially support another man’s children, equitable estopple may apply. This means that your ex-girlfriend may take you to court, and you could be ordered to pay child support until they come of age. I know, you think she’s the one, but which head are you thinking with? Probably the same one her baby daddy was thinking with too.

Single Mom & DaughterLet me ask you something: why in the world would you enter into a relationship where you are required to have an ongoing relationship with your girl’s ex? You wouldn’t—but you will if you date a single mom. If custody is shared, there will be the inevitable meeting of the ex, which more often than not is an ongoing source of drama. He could play the kids against you, no show for his visitation days, fail to pay child support, or simply doesn’t want another man around his kids. He might even still want his ex back. If you’re the son of a single mom, you may have experienced some of this firsthand.

Relationships can be challenging enough without adding another man’s kids to the picture. For that matter, without adding your own kids to the picture! At the very least, make sure you understand exactly what to expect—and don’t rush a commitment with a single mom.

For more information on this subject matter check out Frustrated 2

— Al Greeze

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16 Comments
  • Michelle
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    February 12, 2017

    Congrats on your blog! Interesting topic but very one-sided.

    • Louis
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      March 13, 2017

      One sided?! Really?! You’re full of it! I’m going to remind you that as a collective women in this country especially AAW, are notorious for choosing the wrong male, bearing his child/children and then when things go wrong, leave him and expect the next man to accept both her and HIS children.

  • C Bradshaw
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    February 12, 2017
    • C Bradshaw
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      February 12, 2017

      Awesome!

  • Rob G
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    February 12, 2017

    Great information Bro

  • Verbs2015
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    February 13, 2017

    This is all true, as far as I am concerned single mothers must be left to stew and marinate in their own failures. We typically see the same pattern over and over again, they deliberately choose unproductive men in their prime years, however when the realities of single motherhood finally set in when they are washed up and rinsed out, the decent, hard working, productive man who was rejected years ago in favour of the bum now becomes the single mother’s interest.

    Sorry, I am going to start my own legacy and family tree from scratch, I will not be performing the job of a clean up man for any woman. Women ought to make the right decisions to begin with, this way they won’t have to worry about looking for a sacrificial goat to take on the consequences of their sins down the line.

  • Jean
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    February 13, 2017

    Love it also really open my eyes as a man with no kids.

    Thanks !!

  • February 13, 2017

    Wow… The first blog/time I’ve read, where the report carries the full weight and reality as if a women were posting about a man. My self being raised in home filled with women, as well being a husband, a father of four (4), one (1) being a child of a dead beat dad. I find your blog to be on point and rather light considering the level of abuse waged on the good men who have taken on damage of a women’s poor choice in dating. A great deal of good men remain voiceless victim in these matters. Countless men can attest to raising children where there’s no real appreciation for the stand in other than the reminder that your better than the last one. Not to even speak on the embezzlement factor played out on men across the world for children they Didnt or couldn’t have even fathered. But we move in silence. Thanks for taking our barbershop conversation past the point of which it was found. Prepare for the hate as this gains momentum. I would leave my wallet in support but it’s already being anchored. Lol

  • Teddy
    Reply
    February 13, 2017

    Great Blog!!

  • Jerome
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    February 13, 2017

    Unfortunately nowadays it’s rare you will meet someone without any kids. 25-30 years old chances are you or them will have a child. I have my own experiences both good. To each his own. Just know if the dude is just out for fun he need not apply. Just my two cents

  • Samuel Smith
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    February 13, 2017

    Great article. I tell brothers who have common sense leave single mothers alone.

  • Louis
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    February 13, 2017

    Once again Mr. Greeze you’ve hit center mass on a topic that constantly gets swept under the rug time and time again. However now that women here in America as a collective who carry themselves in this manner are being exposed I hope and pray that more men decide to vote with their feet and keep the wall of silence strong.

  • Will Fareed
    Reply
    February 13, 2017

    Good content bro. Why should any man clean up another man’s garbage??

  • Matthew
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    February 13, 2017

    Great article. Very honest and direct. No holds barred. Growing up, my dad cautioned me about marrying a single mum… as a matter of fact, he pointed out the very same issues that you have outlined. I have had discussions about this subject with a few friends over the years, with my female friends walking away very angry, bitter or upset. I wonder if a single mum will share the ‘joys’ of a single man with no children dating or marrying a single mum with kids. This would be an opportunity to balance things out as I already know, without even reading the comments that there will be some push back … mostly from women.

  • February 26, 2017

    Set them straight. This is the eighth day. All of us as a people must take responsibility for the actions that will perpetuate year’s later.

  • Azagba
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    November 29, 2017

    10 Reasons Why Men Should Not Marry Single Mothers – See Vid
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-0tgLPG5Do&t=6s

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